The other day someone asked me if I was out in the World connecting with travel buddies. She said it in a very matter of fact tone as if it were something that I should definitely be doing. I immediately replied, “Absolutely not, I have no interest at all in traveling with buddies.” I love to travel solo.
One of the perks of my job is the fact that I get to be a solopreneur for the most part and I’m not having to deal with the temperaments and daily issues of other people.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a recluse, and I’m not opposed to a vacation here and there with friends, but when it comes to my lifestyle and day to day life, I honestly and truly love traveling solo.
Below I’m going to list 10 Reasons why I Love Traveling Solo
1.I Plan The Itinerary
Call me a control freak but travel takes up a great deal of time and money. When I make this kind of investment I’d like to be able to do exactly what I want to do.
Many times when we have travel dreams, we’ve had them for a long time. We’ve imagined all of the experiences that we want to have and we know what will make us happy and exactly how we would go about the day.
Unfortunately bringing someone along could mean that they don’t have the same interest as you. This brings you to a point of either needing to compromise or possibly having someone come along on your dream experience and ruining the moment.
I remember dreaming of going to see The Lion King on Broadway. I had a friend who lived in New York City at the time. Sadly this friend was annoyed by tourists in the city. Everything I wanted to be overly excited and cheesy about made her cringe and she didn’t hesitate to make it obvious.
There was a moment in the show that I cried due to overwhelming gratitude and joy. She opted to look at me as if I were crazy and literally ask me, “What was the big deal?”
Needless to say this moment would have been much more special had I gone alone…. and to think…I even paid her way to get into the show. Sigh…
2.I Can Change the Itinerary at Any Given Moment
Let’s face it. Sometimes things just don’t go as planned. You may have wanted to go visit a lighthouse but landed some tickets to a play in the park.
If someone else is with you, you have to consider their thoughts and plans. Perhaps they have someone they planned to meet at a certain time and need to work around it, or they may feel sick or moody or a whole other plethora of things could be going on that you have to consider when it comes to managing the itinerary.
When alone you can bypass the stress of dealing with other’s stressors and make that itinerary work in your best interest.
Cheers to heading to that play and pushing the lighthouse back to tomorrow.
3.I Can Start and End the Day Whenever I Choose
When traveling with someone you may find yourself feeling pressured to get up early or you may end up sitting in the lobby waiting on them to finish their make-up or phone call home.
You could also end up with someone who wants to stay out late dancing the night away when you’d rather get up early and go for a hike getting back to your hotel by dinner time.
Traveling solo alleviates this. I love the idea of getting up and shutting it down whenever my little heart so desires.
4.I Can Eat Exactly What I Want to Eat, When I Want to Eat It, and Where I want to Eat it
Experiencing food is a huge part of the travel experience. The truth of the matter is, some people are more adventurous than others when it comes to meal selections.
I happen to follow a pescatarian diet so I can always appreciate a good seafood restaurant. I also like to find cool off the beaten path places. I almost never eat at chain restaurants….like never.
I remember traveling with a friend once and we were looking for a place to eat. She attempted to walk into an empty restaurant. My response was, I’d like to go to a more “happening” place.
Her response, “Are you hungry or want a party?” Insert eye roll. BOTH!!! Geesh, Lol! This goes back to my desire to be able to appreciate happy moments without the negative dialogue in the background.
Listen, if you want to truly be happy and enjoy your experience down to the food and the environment you eat it in, your best bet is to be happy about it and go alone.
5.I Can Focus on and Embrace the New Experience
Traveling presents full, real-life, post cards for your senses, all in living color. If you can just sit back and observe some of these images and experiences, it can be life changing.
Unfortunately, not everyone understands this, nor do they see the value in the experience or growth that you can gain from travel.
Nothing annoys me more than traveling with someone and as we ride along a new coast or take an interesting train ride, they are hypnotized by their phone.
To each their own, but again, this experience is a trade for my time and money. I want to get the most out of it. Instagram and Facebook will be there when it’s all over.
And of course this also means that they are talking. No matter what the conversation is, it takes away from the experience is you ask me. I’ve had people want to discuss what happened last week, what’s going on back at their home or even how they wish they could be there with their husbands and or kids.
I don’t mean to sound mean, but anything outside of admiration for the beauty of the experience or appreciation and laughter is a negative for me.
I appreciate my travel experiences without the added dialogue from others that leaves me having to process their thoughts rather than just being able to appreciate the rare moments that travel offers.
6.I Get to Meet More, New and Interesting People
One of my all-time favorite things about traveling the World is the fact that I get to meet people I would never have met otherwise.
The stories I hear are amazing, and I now have friends and acquaintances all over the World.
Being alone makes you much more accessible to strangers. They find themselves curious about you and will often time strike up a conversation. These kinds of conversations broaden your mind and perspective. These opportunities are priceless.
When you are with someone, this is less likely to happen.
7.I Get Seating in Restaurants a Whole Lot Quicker
Seriously, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve bypassed long lines to get into eateries because they could just stick me in a corner while others had to wait on tables for their party of four.
8.I Get Pity & Free Stuff
It amazes me how many people believe it’s sad to be alone. I find it kind of sad that this is the reality for folks. To think that one always has to constantly have the narration of others going on in the background is unreal to me.
Having people think this way works to my benefit. They always seem to have pity on me causing them to give me free stuff.
I seriously get free drinks, food and tickets all the time from people whose heart goes out to the poor, lonely lady sitting in the corner.
I’ve also found that many times people have this one extra ticket to a show or something and I happen to be there when they need to get rid of it.
9.I Can Be Free of Bad Attitudes & Negative Dialogue
I think I’ve touched on this a bit already. I’m extremely cheesy and childlike when I experience new things. This can annoy a person who isn’t happy. Hell, it could probably annoy a person who is happy. While some people find it enjoyable and contagious, I’ve had people question the authenticity of my enthusiasm. These are the people that sigh loudly, speak under their breath or roll their eyes because they just don’t get it.
“I LOVE lowering my inhibitions and being overjoyed by new experiences.”
I’ve gone to Hell and back in my lifetime and and I’ve worked hard to have vibrant, fun and juicy experiences as often as I possibly can.
As an empath I pick up on the energy of people easily and almost 90% of the time that I’ve traveled with people, I’ve walked away having discovered that they are miserable. I realize that people smile long enough for good photos for Instagram, but they act like something is stuck up their ass the remainder of the time.
I don’t say this in judgement, life is hard and people have issues, I just choose to handle life differently and traveling is certainly one of those moments where I believe one needs to pull the stick out of their ass.
We have a choice when it comes to how we handle and perceive things. If a friend travels to visit me, I’d be so grateful for the friendship and opportunity, that I’d take the opportunity to be joyous. I don’t have a lot of patience for those that choose to be miserable while life is presenting a moment of peace and or joy.“Carpe Diem Girl! You can deal with the BS Tomorrow!”-Pretty Brown Nomad Click To Tweet
The thing is traveling takes work and sacrifice. You sacrifice money, time and often times sleep. This is the case if you want to make the most of your limited time in a destination.
If you want to really “get it in” you can’t lay around, cater to bad habits, watch t.v. and sit on the phone talking to people back home.
As a person with a true passion for travel, its second nature for me to make all of the sacrifices and do it with a genuine smile. I’m that girl that will happily wake up at 5 a.m. to take an 3 ½ hour bus trip just to see the White Temples and turn around and head back home in the same day.
When traveling with someone else, you have to worry about their limitations or frustrations with the sacrifices that it takes to travel. I’ve had people needing to stop for cigarettes or needing to keep up with Men that were back home not giving a damn about them, or needing to watch a t.v. show that they were addicted to. Are you kidding me?
I seriously can’t be bothered….Lol
10. I Can Stick To the Budget of My Choice, Large or Small
Lastly, I can stick to the budget that works for me.
When traveling you can make it a budget experience or a luxury experience or anything in between. I’ve done it all and either way I know how to have a blast.
My desire to spend a lot or not, depends on so many different things.
Where am I going? How long will I be there? What activities are a must do for me? How is my bank account looking?
The truth of the matter is the answers to these questions vary from time to time, for each person and I’d much rather make the call on my own without the stress of having to try to match someone else’s budget.
There have been times I’ve wanted a very nice meal but the person with me wanted fast food. There have been times that someone else wanted a nice meal and I would have settled for a few tapas at the time.
Again, this varies in so many ways and the truth of the matter is, I can spend or not spend whatever the hell I want when I travel solo.
I enjoyed a solo meal and you get to enjoy this post courtesy of
Nest Restaurant & Bar in Siem Reap, Cambodia.
While I realize parts of this post may come across a bit harsh, it’s the truth. So many people fear going at it alone, but I want people to realize that you may find yourself loving it!
If you can’t tell by now, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it!
Cheers to solo travel!
Do you enjoy traveling solo? If so why?
For more content like this, log onto www.prettybrownnomad.com